Then tell them who they are! I'll share how we do it, and you fill in the blanks and do the same-- I tell you, you'll be amazed at the results.
We are leaving the zoo a few months ago, and it's about 98 degrees at 1030 am. The boys are complaing that they are hot. Too hot to walk. Burning up. They are going on and on. So dad turns and says, "You need to stop gritching. We are Okies. Okies are tough. This means we can stand a little heat, unlike the French." The boys laugh, and guess what... they stop complaining. With in a few days, BOTH boys referenced a hardship they were dealing with, but then said, "I guess I can do this though, since I'm an Okie."
We do this all the time, but with other "ID's" for the kids. Our main goal is to teach our children what it IS to be a follower of Christ. We will idenitfy behaviors that match that idenitfication, and tell the boys this is why we do what we do. Example of this, "We just gave that family some money. Do you know why? Because they needed help to feed their kids. And helping to feed kids, well that is something CHRISTIANS do." "Mommy and Daddy are giving money to the Lifestraw people to help the kids in other countries have clean water to drink. This is what God asks us to do, help widows and orphans. We do this because this is something Christians do."
We do this for all sorts of things. We explain things we do to the kids as "because we are... xxx.... we are doing... yyy..." and we include them in all that. The boys help send the money to the folks in need. They are the ones handing the water out the window of the car to the very nice homeless guy in the orange vest (which, btw, is the ONLY homeless guy around we give to. Mommy has also explained that "mentally healthy, physically healthy" people can get a job and should not beg for money.)
I help my kids know who they are, they are Bennetts. And Bennetts stick together, help others, and love God. My children are building an identity that is going to stick with them long after they leave home and no longer have to depend on me. They will know not just what they are doing, but WHY they are doing it. They will be able to find their identity in what Christ says about them and check those negative words from others or thoughts they have about themselves against what they KNOW. I love that.
So, ID for your kids who they are while they are still young. Explain to them why that ID fits for both you and your child. It's amazing how kids are seeking an identity, and wouldn't you rather YOU help your kiddo find that while still young and under your care, than finding it at 15 when their friends are deciding it for them? Just sayin'.
So, ID for your kids who they are while they are still young. Explain to them why that ID fits for both you and your child. It's amazing how kids are seeking an identity, and wouldn't you rather YOU help your kiddo find that while still young and under your care, than finding it at 15 when their friends are deciding it for them? Just sayin'.